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My babies - last of the Mohiccans

Monday, January 23, 2017

Calling

Did I hear a knock,
on my front door?
Or was it just the wind
howling, across the floor?
Woke me up too early,
so I go back to sleep;
To wake up again shortly,
to the sound of a beep.
A WhatsApp message,
asking “what do you think of me”.
So I answer,
I don’t want to pass.
Explaining plus and minus,
like in an old math class.
Was I right,
or did I get it wrong?
A question was asked,

and I just played my song. 

Friday, January 20, 2017

A New Day

day

the earth is flat
from where I am
although
I stretch my vision
further
over the distant horizon
and see
its awesome curves
enveloping me
in a hug
and
upon it I see creatures
great and small
dancing
their daily jig
in fits and starts
tumbling
over one another
making ends meet
racing
​bombing​
​destroying
occupying lands
​, and​
struggling
​,​
 in
boats
ghettos
slums
squalor
and hopelessness
while others
count their cash
dont pay taxes
seek opportunities
to make that extra
buck
deal
transaction
and some 
look for work
feed the baby
water plants
go to school
​mop floors​
​cook food​
​do the laundry​
while
cars roar
planes fly
ships sail
another new day
just dawned 
in 
​a ​
paradise
​called earth​

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

HB101

Human Behavior – Lesson I

Every human has 3 vital ego states in their mind

Dr Eric Berne’s research on transactional analysis classifies them as:

PARENT (P)
ADULT (A)
CHILD (C)

Every statement we make or action we execute is a TRANSACTION (T)

Every feedback we get to that Transaction is a RESPONSE (R)

Let’s take a simple case study. I will use abbreviations as shown above

Husband: "Where are my car keys. I cant find them anywhere"

This is a genuine Transaction (T)

Wife: "You are always leaving your keys here and there all the time and asking me to find them"
This is a Response

The husband’s T was a genuine Adult to Adult request
The wife’s R was a typical Parent to Child one

So if u put

husband                wife
P                              P
A                              A
C                              C

For husband on left side and same for wife on right side u can draw a line for the A to A Transaction of the husbands request.

And u can draw a line from the wife's P to the Husbands C for her Response

So A to A horizontal Transaction line is being crossed by P to C of wife’s Response

Now when the T line is crossed by the R line there will be conflict

If the wife chose to say "OK lets look for it together it must be somewhere around here" then that would be an A to A response.

When the two lines are parallel and do not cut each other there is good relationship and no conflict
So the wife’s response wasn't typical of a mature lady

Temper also comes from insecurity
To flare up n cover the guilt feeling
The other is IMPATIENCE