Human Behavior – Lesson I
Every human has 3 vital ego states in their mind
Dr Eric Berne’s research on transactional analysis classifies them as:
Every statement we make or action we execute is a TRANSACTION (T)
Every feedback we get to that Transaction is a RESPONSE (R)
Let’s take a simple case study. I will use abbreviations as shown above
Husband: "Where are my car keys. I cant find them anywhere"
This is a genuine Transaction (T)
Wife: "You are always leaving your keys here and there all the time and asking me to find them"
This is a Response
The husband’s T was a genuine Adult to Adult request
The wife’s R was a typical Parent to Child one
So if u put
For husband on left side and same for wife on right side u can draw a line for the A to A Transaction of the husbands request.
And u can draw a line from the wife's P to the Husbands C for her Response
So A to A horizontal Transaction line is being crossed by P to C of wife’s Response
Now when the T line is crossed by the R line there will be conflict
If the wife chose to say "OK lets look for it together it must be somewhere around here" then that would be an A to A response.
When the two lines are parallel and do not cut each other there is good relationship and no conflict
So the wife’s response wasn't typical of a mature lady
Temper also comes from insecurity
To flare up n cover the guilt feeling
The other is IMPATIENCE